"Women have to be grounded," she said. "They have to pay attention to being in the moment, realizing what is going on right now, and how best to handle it. Reach out to the right people and confide in the right people."
Army Maj. Darlene Lazard, a clinical social worker and the deputy director for behavioral health at Walter Reed National Military Medical Center in Bethesda, Maryland, sees things a little more straightforward.
"Some of these things that others view as being stressors, I just view as being par for the course of being in the Army," said Lazard, who has been in the military since the 1980s. "I say that based on my experience of being in the military for a lengthy period of time and seeing how it’s evolved from certain responsibilities that women were not allowed to take on, to where we are now, when we pretty much have the capability of taking on whatever we elect to, if the opportunity is presented."
Still, Lazard noted there’s a definite challenge and balancing act between being, say, a wife and a mother in addition to being a soldier. That women in the military are almost always a significant minority at any given command, compared the number of men, is also a hurdle.
"It can be quite stressful because you always feel like you have to prove yourself that you are worthy - are you the best candidate to be in the room amongst other gentlemen - and be able to hold your own in terms of your area of responsibility as well as being the best soldier you can be," she said. "So, there is a real sense of pressure, of proving yourself."
But overall, Lazard said, "I really don't think there's that much of a difference between how women and men deal with certain things in the military. I think the numbers are different because women are more receptive to receiving care."
Owen repeated that she takes the long view, too, but that nonetheless, adjustment disorder, which she describes as "a broad assortment of anxieties," is "hands down" the most common mental health diagnosis that she finds in military women.
"Women aren't given the same opportunities as men are," she said. "When they leave the military, they're leaving with an idea of men being in a better position. We're not giving them much hope. We prepare girls in general to say, 'What's wrong with me? Why can't I do this?' "We prepare men in society to say, 'What's wrong with this problem? It has to be wrong. I'm doing everything right.'"
"Participants of a April 2020 study by the DOD's Office of People Analytics (OPA), pointed out that the delivery of the trainings is often more important than the content itself; younger service members often take their lead from how their leadership delivers trainings, discusses difficult or uncomfortable topic matter, and how inappropriate behavior is enforced. Younger service members are most influenced by their mid-level leadership, NCOs and supervisors, and their peers, making discussions and trainings with these groups integral to shaping appropriate behaviors at the start of their careers."
This undergirds the need for women early in their career - in all jobs - to have mentorships and sponsorships.
"Even though there are more formal mentorships and networks for women in military medicine, the best are the informal networks and opportunities to share stories, share feelings and reactions and help plan the way forward," said Army Col. (Dr.) Dana Nguyen, at an event in March.
Nguyen, chair of the Department of Family Medicine at the Uniformed Services University of the Health Sciences in Bethesda, Maryland, noted that it shouldn't happen just in military medicine, but within their local communities as well, where "there is more emphasis on whole-person well-being."